Посмотреть на проблему под другим углом

Пару дней назад ко мне в РСС свалился очень интересный пост о том, почему у нас не получается достигать своих целей по саморазвитию. Краткая суть: в нынешней ситуации есть некий позитив, который мы зачастую не осознаем, и который удерживает нас от продвижения вперед – дескать, и тут неплохо. Вообще это все вписывается в теорию вторичной выгоды, о которой я обязательно напишу позже, т.к. это крайне интересная вещь.
Но вкратце дело обстоит так: например, человек не может удержаться от поедания сладостей на работе. И обещания себе дает, и цели ставит, а все никак: каждое утро покупает какую-то печенюшку-конфетку, и течение дня это все съедается. Если задать вопрос “Что хорошего в этой ситуации?”, то вполне может оказаться, что эти вкусности поедаются за совместным чаепитием с коллегами, т.е. таким образом человек социализируется в коллективе и чувствует себя там лучше – ведь все знают, что неформальное общение сближает :)
И получается, что проблема была совсем не в силе воли, а в том, что сладости решали другую задачу. Таким образом можно работать со многими проблемами – найдя вторичную выгоду в них, и подумав, что с этим делать (технология этого каминг сун).
Аналогичную вещь предлагает замечательное сообщество флайледи: например, появляется там пост с проблемой – не могу приучить себя складывать вещи в шкаф, кидаю их на стул/кресло. Обыватель написал бы: да вы лентяйка и неряха, еще и недисциплинированная. А прекрасные дамы пишут: значит, у вас пространство организовано так, что вам неудобно класть в шкаф. Ведь до шкафа у вас целая полоса препятствий, а креслице – вот оно, под рукой. Вы подумайте, как сделать так, чтобы вам было удобнее класть вещи именно в шкапик.
Т.е. проблема рассматривается совсем по-другому, и решения сразу начинают приходить с другой стороны. И находятся, что самое интересное :) и еще и работают, и радуют потом хозяйку.

Так что, прежде чем сходу решать проблему, и давать себе обещания “с завтрашнего дня я…..”, нужно посмотреть, какие факторы скрываются за проблемой: что хорошего и что плохого она для нас делает, и как ее обойти.

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