So What?

Программа в США завершалась рефлексией и “повторным входом” – т.е. определенными беседами и упражнениями, призванными помочь участникам осознать полученный опыт и подумать о том, что ждет нас дальше. Рефлексивную часть проводил профессиональный коуч и ваша покорная слуга. Накануне мы встретились с коучем, Дэвидом, чтобы обсудить предстоящее мероприятие и продумать, какие вопросы помогут лучше всего подытожить прожитое за эти две с половиной недели. Один из вопросов, предложенных Дэвидом, был прост и гениален: So What? Это можно перевести как “И шо?” (именно с “шо”), более литературно как – И что это тебе дало?

Естественно, к этому вопросу шло небольшое предисловие – вот, мол, вы тут побыли, посмотрели, пообщались, прониклись. So What? И что? Что дальше? Как это повлияет на вашу дальнейшую жизнь? Что в ней теперь изменится?

И я сама, и коллеги по программе прочувствовали на себе, насколько сложный этот вопрос. Вроде бы ты ту т так прониклась, так полна решимости жить по-новому… а когда конкретно спрашивают, какие уроки ты извлечешь и как именно новая жизнь будет отличаться от старой, первая мысль, которая приходит в голову, звучит примерно как “ээээ….мнээээ…нуууу….эта…”

В итоге, пытаясь найти вменяемый ответ, очень многое осознается для себя, и отделяется шелуха от главного. Собственно, именно для этой цели вопрос и предназначен.

С тех пор я применяю принцип So What? и к другим областям своей жизни. Естественно, не ко всем, иначе многое можно обесценить (например, отдых и досуг), но в целом он помогает понять, куда двигаться и каких еще результатов можно достигнуть. Так как я в большой мере процессно-ориентированный человек, мне часто бывает полезно понять, продвигаюсь ли я к своей цели.

Об этом же принципе мне напомнила моя бывшая начальница, когда я рассказывала ей о состоявшемся у меня очень теплом разговоре с ректором. Она тут же спросила “Ну и что вы решили? К чему пришли? Вы зафиксировали изменения твоего статуса?” Ее вопросы не значили, что моя беседа с ректором, на которой никаких конкретных шагов предпринято не было, теперь могла считаться бесполезной. Нет, именно она стала отправной точкой для дальнейших положительных изменений. Но толчок начальницы помог мне осознать, что достигнутые результаты нужно закрепить и зафиксировать. Иначе я бы могла и дальше просто радоваться приятному разговору.

So What? помогает сконцентрироваться на самом главном и важном, а это, имхо, как раз то, чего нам всем время от времени не хватает.

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